Know thyself · not a diagnosis · what are you fixing?
The wound map
You keep landing in the same spot: the same fight, or the same week where you're fixing
everything and nobody asked. You try harder and it comes back. The move that kept you safe
a long time ago is still running, and now it costs you.
Tap the voice you know. Tap how you protect it. Under a minute, nothing
to type. You walk out with what you've been chasing, what it could turn into, and one thing
to do by next week. 11 voices, 3 moves. Mine is already filled in below:
"I am not enough," and I went invisible.
Nothing you tap here leaves your device. No account, no
server, no analytics. Your picks are erased when you close the tab.
this page isn't a diagnosis
I'm a physical therapist, not your therapist. This is a map I pulled together from other
people's work. Nobody has tested it as a measure, and it can't tell you who you are. If a row
brings up something heavy, stop here and talk to someone licensed. In crisis or thinking about
hurting yourself? In the US, call or text 988, any hour. In danger right
now, call 911.
Why this one exists
I let an AI ask me 20 hard questions on camera. In my hardest season, what emotion did I
live in? "My worthiness. Am I worthy of this?" Then I tried to name the feeling and
couldn't. Naming emotions, I said, is "oddly just very hard," and I asked it for a list. So
this page is a list.
As a kid: "I had to become invisible." Grown: "Often I am told I am too much," and in one low
chapter "I tried to be little. It was not fun." Then the shop: "Maybe that's why DIY dad stuff
is so appealing to me, because I'm fixing something." What I do about it is a line I'd already
posted. The person you're best suited to help is the person you were five years ago:
Instagram,
Facebook.
Part 1 — The voice
Which one have you heard the most? Go with the first that stings. You can change it.
Part 2 — How you protect it
When that voice shows up, what do you do? Most of us do all three. Tap your first move.
Part 3 — Your map
Your map
The boulder question
Most problems are who-you-know. Name one person who has seen you at your
worst and stayed.
Now make the call. You don't owe them the
map. Ask: “when do you see me go quiet, push, or try to fix it?”
That was free and nothing here sits behind an email. If it was
useful, here's the whole exchange: send it to one or two people who'd use it
too. That's it. I'm trusting you with it, you pass it on.
Want the next one before anyone else? I'm building an interest
list — no selling, no sequence, your address goes nowhere.
Exactly what that means, in plain words.
The list itself isn't open yet — I'm still setting it up, and
I'd rather say that than put up a box that doesn't work. The ask above stands
either way, and it's the one that matters. If you want to tell me what to build
next, my DMs are open.